Dear Amber (Debut) - All Your Wedding Questions Answered

DEAR AMBER:My best friend is getting married, and has asked me to be her Maid of Honor. I’m excited to be given such a big role. However, as the big day approaches, the bride is not letting me help with anything. Every time I ask what she needs help with, she tells me she has it handled. But when we meet in social gatherings, all she can do is complain about how much work she has to do and no one is helping her. How can I help her if she’s not letting me?


DEAR MOLLY: Insightful question. Some brides have a difficult time admitting that they need help and try to take on every aspect of wedding planning. A friendly, but firm and actionable approach is best in this situation. Invite the bride-to-be to coffee and help her prioritize the most pressing tasks. Make it clear that you want to help her and commit to the tasks you will handle. Lastly, similar to what we do here at VOWS, set bi-weekly or monthly goals together, so neither of you feels overwhelmed. Good luck & happy planning!

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